I did all the things I was supposed to. I was quick to cheer others on. I could look at someone and find a dozen things to compliment them on in under a minute. I smiled a lot, said yes a lot, and embodied the kind of person that I’d want to meet. Continue reading “Are You Too Hard On Yourself? Here’s How To Stop Kicking Your Own Ass”
So, here’s the dilemma: you really love watching movies, but you’re getting pretty sick and tired of stories with no black girls or women in them. According to most movies, black women just don’t exist – not in fantasy worlds, not in alternate realities, not even in the “real world,” nothing. We may pop up from time to time to offer a “Oh hell naw” or otherwise be sassy, but then we fade into the background yet again. Continue reading “‘Girlhood’ Is The Black Girl Coming-of-Age Film I’ve Been Waiting For…Almost”
It sounds like something you’d hear on an episode of Oprah or find slapped across the cover of a self-help book in the bargain bin: Are you afraid to be happy?
Yeah, like I’m afraid to win the lottery and see Tom Hardy naked. Continue reading “Are You Afraid To Be Happy?”
It’s Monday, so you know what that means: Mindfulness Mondays! (Yeah, that’s a thing I’m doing now, get used to it.) It’s time to start the week off right by getting inspired to make some positive changes. Because why sleep in when you can get one step closer to being where you truly want to be in life, right? Continue reading “Be Careful What You Consume”
Ever since I was a kid, I’ve turned to fiction to help me deal with the harder parts of life. While I’ve never encountered a character that I felt was really like me (there aren’t a lot of black female protagonists to choose from, unfortunately), there are certain shows that can always get my mind off of things and take me away to a happier, less stressful place. Continue reading “5 TV Shows That Will Get You Through The Toughest Times Of Your Life”
I started this year off in a strange, strange place.
It feels like a lot has changed. And like most changes in life, it feels too sudden. It came with too little warning – at least, that I was willing to see – and I feel unsettled inside. I wish I could get my insides to untwist themselves. I wish I could smooth myself down like fresh asphalt. Continue reading “A Word About Change: What Destroys Must Also Rebuild”
I’ll admit it: in middle school, I talked shit about Hufflepuffs just like everyone else. It was the cool thing to do. I was a Ravenclaw – intelligent, clever, and not as…non-descript as I imagined Hufflepuffs were. Continue reading “In Defense Of Hufflepuffs Everywhere”